At a Bible Study I attend, one of the men handed out a sheet of paper containing two lists. One list showed the things that are outside of our control. The other detailed the things that we can control.

In reality, the list of things outside our control would be a long list, and since by definition they are things that we cannot change or influence, there is limited benefit from concentrating upon them.

Therefore, I thought it might be beneficial to readers of this blog to list thing things that we can control. That list, with Scriptural support, is shown below.

How I Treat Others

“Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.” (Luke 6:31, NASB 95)

What I Think About

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” (Philippians 4:8, NASB 95)

My Obedience to God

““If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.” (John 14:15, NASB 95)

Forgiving Others

“For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew 6:14, NASB 95)

My Effort to Grow Spiritually

“but grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory, both now and to the day of eternity. Amen.” (2 Peter 3:18, NASB 95)

How I Handle Temptation

“Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7, NASB 95)

My Faith in God

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5, NASB 95)

How Much I Pray

“pray without ceasing;” (1 Thessalonians 5:17, NASB 95)

My Attitude

“This is the day which the Lord has made; Let us rejoice and be glad in it.” (Psalm 118:24, NASB 95)

My Words

“Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.” (Colossians 4:6, NASB 95)

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Yesterday was a hard day. It seemed like lots of stuff got piled on me and I didn’t respond well. I will spare you the details but suffice it to say that circumstances reminded me of my many failures and my oh-so-evident faults.

This morning, in a Lyft on my way to the airport, I saw a rock formation called “The Praying Monk” at the head of Camelback Mountain. And I thought, wouldn’t it be nice if that monk could pray for me.

Then it hit me, I have some one way better than a praying monk interceding for me.

“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.” (1 John 2:1, ESV)

My mind was then taken to John 21 where Jesus sought out Peter on the shore of Galilee. Peter, the one who denied Jesus by his words and actions, was likely overwhelmed by the magnitude of his failure. I am sure it was a surprise to Peter when he was not only restored to fellowship but was also given a mission to tend those who Jesus was calling into fellowship with himself.

Looking into the face of Jesus, Peter found grace and acceptance rather than condemnation. As John reminds us in the verse quoted above, you and I can find the same grace and acceptance.

While this reflection doesn’t change my circumstances, it certainly does change my attitude about them.

Knowing that I am not alone changes everything. Knowing that the one with me accepts me as I am is even better. But the best part is that Jesus is actively working to allay my fears and transform me into the person he designed me to be.

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A few days ago, I saw a meme in LinkedIn with some comments by the actor Jakie Chan about gratitude. That quote is shown at right in this post.

It is so easy to be frustrated about what we don’t have. It is also so easy to be jealous of someone who has something that we would like to have. Neither of these responses are healthy, since they only lead to frustration.

One of the hardest lessons that we need to learn is how to respond to the parts of our life that are beyond our control. In some things we have limited control, in others we have zero control.

I am finding that two things help with dealing with this “out of our control” issues.

The first is gratitude, as Jackie Chan points out. The second is forgiveness.

Forgiveness allows me to let go of the hurts that I have incurred and find a way to move forward. I am learning to let those hurts go which prevents them from controlling my thoughts and give me the freedom to think about other things.

I am also finding that gratitude is a path to contentment. When I am most grateful, then I usually find myself relatively content. On this idea I am reminded of Paul’s words to the Philippians:

“. . . for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:11–13, NASB 95)

Paul reminds us that true contentment is a work of God in my life. Having gratitude is foundational to allowing God to do this work in us.

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As I write this, I am sitting on my patio on a lovely May morning in a quiet neighborhood. I hear the distant rumble of jet engines from the local airport, but instead of carrying weapons that sow destruction, these jets are carrying people to destinations of their own choosing.

While I am far from rich by American standards, I have luxuries in my life that would be the envy of much, if not most, of the world. The fact that I can sit in peace and have the time and a place to write this post is a blessing for which I should always be grateful, and I chose to be so.

I also have freedom in my life that much of the world would also envy. One only need to talk to those who have emigrated to the United States to get a better understanding of conditions elsewhere.

I have freedom to criticize those in power in my country, I have the freedom to worship God openly and in a manner consistent with my understanding of what God wants. I have the freedom to pursue work that I find rewarding and that I enjoy. There are many other freedoms that could be listed.

This level of freedom is another blessing for which I chose to be grateful.

But I am reminded that these blessings, which ultimately come from God, were purchased by those who have given their lives to protect those freedoms. It is these that we remember on Memorial Day.

Yesterday I overheard a conversation in a shop where a veteran announced that it is inappropriate to say “Happy Memorial Day.” I agree. No-one should be happy about the sacrifices that needed to be made to assure our freedom.

So, I will say, “Have a meaningful Memorial Day.” Let us all be grateful for the freedom we have and pray for those who currently serve in uniform and pray for our leaders as they work to protect our country from those who would seek to destroy it. Let us also pray for the families that have lost loved ones in the service of our country.

In the last few years I have started to verbally thank those in uniform who are actively engaged in protecting us, including military personnel, border patrol, police officers, and firemen. Can I encourage you to do the same?

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