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Rethinking Church

Posted on September 5, 2020 Written by Mark McIntyre Leave a Comment

I am becoming increasingly dubious about the goal of having a large church with a multi-million dollar facility and large, professional staff. I’m still waiting for a really good experience in such an organization.

The main problem I’ve encountered is that to build such a large church, one of the necessary components is a really gifted speaker who most likely then becomes the de facto leader of the church. The leader then surrounds himself with like-minded staff and elders, and groupthink sets in. As a result, the only opinion represented in the leadership is the opinion of the gifted speaker (and de facto leader).

This is not how the church is represented in Scripture. Paul uses the analogy of the body, where all the parts are valuable, and Jesus, as the head, assumes the authority and the responsibility to bring together all the necessary parts of the body. These include elders who are gifted with the ability to shepherd the people in the church.

When groupthink sets in, elders that challenge the groupthink are ignored. To ignore those elders or tell them that their input is not required goes against Scripture (and common sense).

Then there is the pragmatic question of how the financial resources of the church are spent. I wonder if the money spent on the large venue is the best use of those resources. You not only have the expense of building the large building, there is also so a large increase in the maintenance and operating budgets to support the building.

I have attended two churches that have undertaken building programs. In both cases, rather than being a tool for ministry (as was intended), the building itself became the main focus of the church. In addition, the size of the mortgage and operating budget put unhealthy pressure on the leadership to evaluate the ministry based on potential impact to the giving.

Perhaps we should keep in mind Jesus’ words about the impossibility of serving God and money?

In the year 2020, one of the results of the COVID-19 pandemic is that those who have lived through it will have a different attitude toward large group gatherings for the foreseeable future.

Notice that when you watch a movie or a television program, the sight of a large bunch of people gathered together without masks looks a little weird right now. It is strange to think of being in a group of a thousand or more people, shoulder to shoulder, without masks and copious amounts of hand sanitizer.

This makes me wonder if this isn’t a good time to reexamine the goal of having a large church. Is it a good time to say good-bye to the desire to have thousands of people gathering together in the same place on a Sunday? Is it a good time to say good-bye to large, opulent church buildings? Is it a good time to say good-bye to big, showy productions on Sunday mornings?

This post was prompted by a recent reading of the second chapter of Acts. Specifically, I was challenged by Acts 2:42 which says:

“They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread, and to prayer.”

Acts 2:42, CSB

In this verse, Luke tells us that there were four components to which the early church was devoted. Below, I’d like to briefly share some thoughts on how these components are handled within many large church settings in 2020.

The Apostles Teaching

Some of the preachers in large churches still do expository preaching from the pulpit. But many have succumbed to the idea that expository preaching is a thing of the past and to draw large crowds, the preacher must do topical sermons to speak to “felt” needs of the people filling the seats or pews.

As I see it, there are two problems with topical preaching. The first is that it is very, very difficult to do it well and to correctly represent what Scripture says on a particular topic. It is all too easy to find the passages that support what the preacher thinks about the topic and ignore the passages that are more difficult or nuanced.

The second problem is that not everything we need to hear from Scripture appeals to a “felt” need in the culture. To cherry-pick passages on which to preach decreases the likelihood that all that God wants us to learn from Scripture will be proclaimed from the pulpit.

Expository preaching, where the preacher goes through a book of the Bible verse by verse, allows for everything in that book to be examined. The preacher can’t skip over the parts that are uncomfortable or the parts that go against popular culture.

In addition to all of this, with a majority of the focus of the church on the Sunday service, one-on-one or small group discipleship can be relegated to a secondary status.

This is a shame because most people who feel very grounded in Scripture would say that much of their grounding came about in a small group or one-on-one setting.

The Fellowship

Can we be totally honest here? Some of the people who are drawn to large churches love the anonymity of being in such a large group. They can hear a sermon, say hello to a few people, and then not have any interaction with other members until the following week.

Is that fellowship?

When you have 1,000 people attending a service you don’t have time or the means of really connecting with others. We get there, say hello to a few people, sit down, sing a few songs, perhaps even have a 2 minute time of greeting other people, listen to a sermon, sing the closing song and then figure out what we’re doing for lunch. There is absolutely no time in such a service to get to know others or get to be known by them.

In every experience I’ve had in a big church, there has been discussion about how to make the big church feel small. The goal is to get people into small groups of various types and various names. This is a tacit admission that large churches don’t do fellowship very well.

Perhaps, maybe we should ask if this is not an indication that smaller churches might be a better way to go.

The Breaking of Bread

A shared meal is a great way of really getting to know someone else. It is a time for conversation to begin and continue naturally. This is how real fellowship takes place.

The logistics of a large dinner for the entire church are increasingly difficult as the size of the church increases.

I’ve known some smaller churches that have a pot luck dinner after service nearly every Sunday. This would be nearly impossible with a large group of people.

Prayer

Upfront, I must admit that I have been at prayer meetings that were difficult for me to sit through. I remember one prayer meeting where one of the saints entered into a long prayer that reminded God and his fellow saints of the dangers of reading the Harry Potter books. There is always a possibility that prayer meetings can devolve into such unhelpful behavior.

The solution to such antics cannot be to eliminate prayer meetings entirely. This is indeed throwing the baby out with the bathwater to use the well-worn idiom. Prayer done badly is no excuse to eliminate it from the church calendar.

But, it seems that many churches, especially the large ones, have indeed eliminated a dedicated time of corporate prayer. The Wednesday evening prayer meeting is a thing of the past.

And for those that do have a prayer meeting on the calendar, often the leadership of the church is not committed to participating in the meeting. Is there a sense, on the part of the leadership, of the absolute dependence upon God for the health of the church? Is the leadership demonstrating that dependence by leading the people in prayer for the church and community?

But then, why do we need to pray when church growth experts have mapped everything out as to how to grow a big church? Perhaps the “proven” methods of filling the seats on a Sunday have eliminated the need to cry out to God in a sense of complete dependence upon Him.

Yes, I’m being a bit cynical here. But my cynicism is fueled by my hurt and confusion over how people, including myself, have been treated in large church settings. The attitude in such churches seems to be, “we have a program, get with that program, or get out.”

I suggest we look at how Jesus interacted with people while he was on earth. Everyone was important to Jesus and everyone felt that they were important to him. We have many stories of Jesus seeking after those who were overlooked or scorned by polite society.

But in large churches, too often the attitude is that “this church isn’t for everyone” which results in a cavalier attitude about those who leave.

The fact that people are leaving and they are leaving after being hurt too often doesn’t cause sufficient alarm among the leadership.

Something is very, very wrong with this.

Filed Under: Bible Reflection Tagged With: breaking of bread, fellowship, large, prayer, teaching

The church building is a tool

Posted on February 10, 2014 Written by Mark McIntyre 9 Comments

Chrome Plated Church BuildingI received an email yesterday from a man who visited a new church only to be confronted by the pastor because the man’s wife brought a drink into the “sanctuary.” Lest you think that this is uncommon, it was not long ago that I attended a church where the pastor made a huge deal out of anything other than water being brought into the auditorium. Presumably, such rules are in place because of fear that coffee or other drinks might get spilled on the carpet and result in a stain.

I have two fundamental issues with this thinking. The first issue has to do with the whole idea of any part of the building being the “sanctuary.” When believers enter the meeting room to gather for worship, they are not entering the temple where they will encounter God. The believers are temples (1 Cor. 6:19) carrying the Holy Spirit with them into the meeting. To protect one part of the building as being more holy or special makes no sense to me.

Secondly, the church is not the building, the church is the people who gather there for worship. It should be kept in mind that the people matter more to God than the building. A church leadership that does not understand this is not worthy of following.

Proverbs 14:4 says, “where there are no oxen, the manger is clean.” When the manger is fulfilling its role of feeding oxen, it becomes a little messy. To remain clean requires that the manger avoid it’s designed purpose.

In the same way, the “church” building is intended to facilitate worship. It should be used to bring people into a deeper relationship with God. It should be used to meet the needs of the people who gather there. When it is used in this way, it is likely that the carpet will pick up a few stains and the building might show some wear and tear.

There is nothing wrong with having beautiful tools. I have known some auto mechanics that have impressive tool chests with shiny chrome plated wrenches and other tools. While the chrome plating is nice to have, it is not the plating that makes the tool useful. The wrench is useful because it is made of forged steel and it is sized properly for the nut that requires turning.

In the same way, the building in which we worship may be beautiful or it may be rather plain. Either way, the building can serve its intended function of being a gathering place of believers. We are to be good stewards of the resources God has given us, so if we have been given a beautiful building, we should be faithful in maintaining the building. But at the same time, we should never forget that the building is a means to an end and not an end in itself. The building is a tool to bring people into community.

Church leaders will be graded by God on how well they shepherded the people that came under their care, not on how well they preserved the carpet in the building. Leaders will have to give an account of how well they used the building to change lives and facilitate worship of God.

Do I want coffee stains on the carpet at my church? Yes, I think I do. Because if we are going to get people together, if we are going to facilitate relationship, we are going to do things like drink coffee and munch on snacks. When we do this, accidents will happen. Drinks will get spilled and food will get dropped. It is inevitable.

Since I want the interaction with people (and the snacks are nice to have), I will live with a few stains in the carpet.

Filed Under: Bible Reflection Tagged With: carpet, Church, coffee, fellowship, sanctuary

The balance between worship, service and fellowship

Posted on December 3, 2011 Written by Mark McIntyre 2 Comments

The Balance

Church TriangleFor a church to be healthy, each believer must have opportunity to participate in worship, service and fellowship.

Some definitions are in order. First, when I refer to worship, I am speaking of the activities of the congregation when we come together on Sunday morning. We worship through singing and the teaching of Scripture. Both are important. Yet, a good worship experience cannot be the only aspect of church life. A great teacher and worship band may draw a crowd, but it is the addition of service and fellowship that make it a church.

Service is the acts that are done within and outside the church body to minister to specific needs. An example of service within the body would be teaching Sunday school or working on a cleaning team. Service outside the body would be typified by short term missions, or providing meals or clothing to people having physical needs. Service alone makes for a charitable organization but not a true church.

Fellowship is when members of the body share life together. When the church group starts to feel like family, then we are nibbling at the fringes of true fellowship. Yet fellowship without worship and service makes for a clique, not a church.

When one side is atrophied

If we are not coming together for singing, praise and teaching, then the church body will be fragmented and struggle to find unity. Fellowship may happen, but it will not be centered around a common vision for what God is doing in that church body.

If the acts of service are minimized, the church will become ingrown and proud in it’s attitude toward the community in general and newcomers in particular. This is a Christianity that is self serving and smug.

If we are worshipping and serving without real fellowship, then the saints will advance from feeling unappreciated to feeling abused. People will come and then drift away when they do not find the interaction that they feel should typify the true church.

In my experience of evangelical Christianity, it is the fellowship leg of the triangle that seems to suffer the most. Evangelical, Bible centered churches understand the need for good teaching and worship on Sundays. Even a cursory reading of Scripture prescribes the need for service, so opportunities to serve abound. Fellowship is a different story.

Home group Bible studies, home fellowship groups, adult fellowships, koinonia groups, etc. may be the beginning of fellowship, but they cannot be the total solution. Fellowship is not something that can be arranged with a program.

Toward Deeper Fellowship

If we are in need of deeper fellowship, how do we go about finding that depth? Here are some thoughts:

  • In John 13:35 Jesus tells us that love is to be the defining mark of the Christian. If there is resentment or division in the church, those who are participating in that behavior need to repent and be restored to the opponent.
  • Keep in mind that while there may be different roles in the Church, there are no differences in value. (Galatians 3:28) Everyone is to be valued, not for their giftings or accomplishments, but for the fact that Jesus sacrificed himself on their behalf.
  • In Matthew 25:41 Jesus tells us that by responding to the needs of those who have no resources, it is as if we ministered directly to Jesus. By seeking to support, encourage and meet the emotional and spiritual needs of or church mates, we are ministering to Jesus.
  • Each of us, no matter how strong we seem now, will come to a place where we will be needy. Since Christmas is upon us, the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” comes to mind. George Baily came to the point where he needed the community into which he had invested so much of his energy. It was there for him. So should the church be.

This certainly is not an exhaustive list. Any other ideas out there? Feel free to chime in with comments.

Filed Under: Church Leadership Tagged With: fellowship, Love, teaching, Worship

Why do we make church so complicated?

Posted on July 10, 2011 Written by Mark McIntyre 9 Comments

ComplicatedJesus tells us in Matthew 11:28-30 that his yoke is easy and his burden is light. Why then do we make church so complicated?

We have programs and activities that would make the average cruise ship activities director envious.

We have men’s groups, women’s groups, singles groups, youth groups, coffee shops, concerts, ministry days, outreach events, the list goes on and on.

I’m not saying that any of these activities are wrong or not helpful. The question is, do we know why we are doing them? Do they serve a purpose or are we doing them because someone, somewhere decided that that is how we do church?

I know that the expectations of church shoppers are quite high and the competition is stiff. If the denominational outlet down the street has a gym, we better think about a building program to keep up. We don’t want to loose the families with athletic kids. If our air conditioning isn’t up to snuff, or the carpet is grungy or the seats are uncomfortable then visitors might not return.

My point is that many of the expectations people have of churches and church staff are not based on the Bible. We have often lost sight of what Jesus said we are to be about in an attempt to meet the perceived needs of the people.

The Church’s overarching mission, per Jesus, is to make disciples (Matthew 28:19). Do our activities help us accomplish this? Hebrews 10:24-25 tells us to encourage each other to love and good works. It seems to me that fulfillment of these two responsibilities requires more personal interaction than the Sunday morning blitzkrieg at the average church will allow. Sure, we can use resources such as gyms and air conditioners to do the work of ministry. But we often frantically do stuff without stopping to determine if progress toward the goal is being made.

In any endeavor, it is easy to mistake activity for progress. I’ve observed this mistake in both business and religious organizations. Gerbils on a wheel are being active. Salmon swimming upstream to spawn are making progress. The difference is whether or not we are arriving where we should be going.

I have observed in churches that while they say they’re all about fellowship, too often people are so busy getting kids to their proper classes and themselves off to their ministry stations that very little fellowship takes place. Church staff are busy plugging ministry holes left by vacationing volunteers so it is difficult to get in much more than a hello. Often we are more like shoppers at the mall checking items off our list than worshipers in fellowship.

Can we slow down this Sunday morning and really say hello to someone? Can we take the time to recognize the person who is barely holding it together? Can we create an environment where it is OK to be not OK? Can we show the breathless world how to rest? Can we be examples of people who know where to find true rest?

If we stop long enough we may discover that the yoke of Jesus is easy and his burden is light.

Filed Under: Bible Reflection Tagged With: Church, complicated, fellowship, Worship

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