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Pour Contempt on all my Pride

Posted on March 31, 2025 Written by Mark McIntyre Leave a Comment

I have a theory as to why there is so much written about the Pharisees’ running battle with Jesus in the Gospel narratives.

One thing that comes through loud and clear in the recorded stories is that the Pharisees were motivated by pride in their position and pride in what their supposed superior righteousness.

The problem with pride is that it is so easy to spot in others and so difficult to identify in ourselves. We read about the pharisees and can easily point to their pride and error. Yet, we can be unaware of how pride is affecting our own behavior.

The irony in this is that it should be the other way round. We should be quick to identify it in ourselves and slow to accuse others of possessing it. We should know ourselves better than we know anyone else and be aware of our tendency toward pride.

Jesus word picture about removing the log in my own eye before seeking to fix the speck in my neighbor’s eye should guide us here. We need to check our sense of superiority before we seek to “help” our neighbor see his problem.

Back to my theory, I think the reason why there is so much about the Pharisees in the gospels is that we all have a tendency to be blind to our own falsly elevated opinion of our own behavior. I would go so far as to say that if you think you have avoided this trap, that is proof that you have fallen into it.

When friends and loved ones criticise me, I find that I want to defend myself rather than look for what is true in the criticism. Sure, there are times when the criticism is too harsh and not given in a spirit of love and grace. But even when the critic crosses over into injustice, I should still be willing to acknowledge what part of the criticism is justified and requires repentance.

Instead of getting defensive or ignoring the criticism, I should follow the example of Jesus as recorded by Peter:

“When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly.” (1 Peter 2:23, ESV)

I should instead, entrust myself to God as the perfect judge in the knowledge that he will be both fair and gracious. This knowledge should put me in a position to be both honest about my own failing and gracious to my critic.

So, in a way, we should be grateful for the critics in our lives, even the ones that seem to be too quick to point out our faults. Because, like Paul’s thorn in the flesh, they will keep us from getting caught up in pride.

I am reminded of the first verse of Isaac Watts’ hymn, “When I survey the Wonderous Cross.”

When I survey the wondrous cross
On which the Prince of Glory died
My richest gain I count but loss
And pour contempt on all my pride

Our critics point out our need to repent of our pride rather than defend it or strengthen it. Pride is a cancer that needs to be eliminated for our spiritual health. Our pride deserves our contempt, not our defense.

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Filed Under: Bible Reflection Tagged With: log, pride, repentance, speck

Finding Leaders As Good As Moses

Posted on September 5, 2014 Written by Jason Evans 3 Comments

This is a guest post by Jason Evans whose biographical information appears in the author box below this post. If you would like to guest author on Attempts at Honesty, please see the guest post guidelines and contact me if you are interested in providing a post.

MosesI want you to picture yourself as a leader of an entire nation for one moment. Now I want you to think about how you became that leader. Did you go through a lot of school, clawing your way through the political ranks to finally be elected into office after a hard campaign? Maybe you think to yourself that the position was given to you, after you successfully led your army to take over the world?

I have read a lot of self help articles about being a good leader. But most of them have it all wrong. Why can I say that? It is because most people have a wrong view of what it takes to become a leader. When someone is being interviewed in the business world they are typically being examined to find out how dedicated they are and how well they can perform. That is what people think qualifies you to be a leader.

Lets look at the church too. If you have ever been on a pastor search committee then you know that the guy with years of schooling, and plenty of experience clawing his way to become a pastor, is the one that often gets called first. He will normally come in and tell you all about how wonderful he is, while trying to act humble about it.

He may speak with such a dynamic voice and draw crowds of people. Then, after the church asks him to become their pastor, he starts making the changes that he wants to make. He commands authority and because of that authority no one dares to question him.

This may sound like a great leader. He has all of the qualities men look for. They flock to him. Those who oppose him are cast away by his followers. He really is a take charge kind of guy.

But is he the leader God would have chosen? I don’t want to shock you too much, but normally the answer is no. Because God likes to use the weak and the outcast to bring the mighty to shame.

Lets do that exercise again. But this time I want you to picture yourself as Moses. You are standing on the mountain looking over the promised land. God stands beside you and says, “You led them here.” You suddenly look back on your life to see the road that you took to become the leader of a nation.

Do you feel proud? Do you see all of the wonderful things you did and said? Do you see how strong of a leader you are?

The truth is that Moses never wanted to lead in the first place. He told God no several times. Then he finally surrendered and went to the slaves, who rejected him. Everyday he questioned his ability. In fact, Aaron had to speak for him because he was too afraid to speak for himself!

Even as God showered miracles down in front of the people they complained about him. He had no respect or authority at all! But at the end of the tenth plague they followed him out of Egypt as a free people. He still had problems though.

They continued to complain. One time the people even said, “Who made you a ruler over us?” Moses answered them by saying he would rather follow them than lead himself! Moses did not command authority. The people did not want to follow him at all. He was the last pick for the leader of their nation!

But none of that mattered. Because God had sent him. God had chosen a man so blunt and rough around the edges that he literally forced people to drink molten gold! He smashed the first hand written tablets of stone that God had given, and he even asked God to destroy the people after becoming so angry with them.

He certainly would not be the first pick to pastor most churches! Now, I know all of this is something you have probably heard before. But the way to become a leader chosen by God is not by becoming the most qualified. It really isn’t even by being willing (Moses certainly wasn’t). God has His own way of choosing leaders and putting them in place.

Here are some keys that I have seen in how God places people in leadership. The first key is found in Ecclesiastes 4:13-14. It says, “Better is a poor and a wise child than an old and foolish king, who will no more be admonished. For out of prison he cometh to reign; whereas also he that is born in his kingdom becometh poor.”

There is something God knows about those who follow others. They never follow because of authority. A king may make the law, but unless the military enforces it people will not obey. This is because people follow power. Moses had all of the authority in the world to lead, because God gave it to him. But it was only because God showed His power through Moses that the people eventually followed.

Power comes in many forms. Sometimes it is the power to inflict pain. People will follow orders because of the fear of your power. But this kind of power only lasts as long as it takes for someone else to challenge you with power of their own. The greatest power you can have is the power to make someone live a life more abundantly.

That is the second key. David had the power to set Israel free from the fear of Goliath. When he faced the giant that no one else would dare face, people took notice of him. They say that the one who speaks loudest will be heard. Remember that actions speak louder than words! Use the power given to you through the word of God to set people free. They will follow you after you do.

The third key to becoming someone that people will follow is knowing the path to travel. If you know how to help someone have a better life they will want to know your secret. If you have peace in your own life then people will want you to teach them how they can have it too. This is leading by example.

You may have noticed I did not list confidence, authority, or even ability in these keys. That is because people do not follow these things (at least not for long). People follow leaders that God puts in place because God works on their character.

He molds them into people that exhibit what others are looking for. They don’t need a title. They lead without it in most cases. But even without a title, the king that God has rejected fears them. Because the people would rather remove the king from his throne and crown the slave who heals their wounds, faces their giants with them, and knows the way to bring them to the desires of their hearts.

So if you are looking for a leader for your church, don’t focus on the degree, title, or elegant speech. Look for the one who leads by healing the hurting, facing the difficulties in your church that no one else would, and by practicing what they preach. As the leader of an online church myself, I hope this is what people see in me.

Filed Under: Guest Post Tagged With: humility, Leader, Moses, pride

Four reasons for division in the church

Posted on September 1, 2014 Written by Mark McIntyre 6 Comments

In a previous post, I outlined the problem of division in the church. Today I discuss the reasons why it takes place.

Causes of Division

DivisionI can think of four reasons why church leaders cause division over non-essentials:

  1. Pride
  2. Misunderstanding
  3. Insecurity and
  4. Idolatry

Pride

It is all too common to find those who feel superior to those who do not properly understand doctrine. If I am honest, I must admit that my inner Pharisee seeks to move me toward such feelings. It is easy to become proud.

Yet, this is not how we see Jesus and the Apostle Paul functioning in the New Testament. Yes, they taught and argued to bring people to a correct understanding of doctrine, but one does not sense in either Jesus or Paul any attitude that would promote division over non-essential doctrine. If anything, one senses feelings of sorrow over those who misunderstand the Gospel.

Paul points to Jesus as the example of one who humbled himself for the purpose of bringing us to salvation. The very Gospel that is to unite us was made possible by Jesus’ example of humility. To the Philippians Paul wrote:

“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” (Philippians 2:5–11, ESV)

Misunderstanding

Those who promote division often have a misunderstanding of what it means to be set apart. Jesus told us that his coming would result in disagreement rather than peace. Jesus also told us that his followers would have to endure persecution.

But we should not be seeking the disagreement, it may find us, but it should be something that we try to avoid. If an offense is to come, let it be the offense of the gospel and not the offense of those who seek to speak in God’s name. We don’t need to take hard stands on issues such as the preferred Bible translation, or wearing of cosmetics or many of the really silly things that have divided believers over the years.

Jesus told us that the defining mark of the Christian is to be love. If anything is to set us apart from others it should be the radical way we love those around us.

Insecurity

I have seen in some a need to be reassured of being part of the “in” group. The insecurity manifests itself by setting up doctrinal litmus tests to see who is in and who is out. This could be over eschatology (the study of last things – interpretation of prophecy) or some other doctrine that is set up as the test for orthodoxy.

When I look at who hung around Jesus, I have to marvel that churches work so hard at defining who is in and who is not. Jesus hung around with drunkards, hookers, thieves, terrorists and every other category of societal outcast. The one and only test for inclusion into his group was a love for Jesus.

Why then do we feel the need to quantify who is in and who is not? Jesus knows. Can the knowledge that Jesus knows be enough for us?

Idolatry

I love Scripture. I spend time reading it and studying it so that I am on a path of increasing understanding of how God intends me to live and how I should understand the world around me. I believe that this study will lead me into correct belief and practice.

But there is a danger for those who put high value on correct understanding of the Bible. Our desire for correct understanding can eclipse our love for the one who gave us Scripture. In other words, we can be so enamored with correct understanding, we can lose sight of the purpose for gaining that understanding. Our study is to draw us more deeply in love with the God who gave us the Bible.

When our love for correct belief causes us to be unloving toward someone who believes differently, then perhaps we have made an idol out of our doctrine.

Conclusion

Jeremiah 17:9 tells us that our hearts can lead us astray. When division comes, the first place we should look for blame is in our own hearts. Am I causing division out of pride, misunderstanding, insecurity or idolatry? Am I working to be the cause of resolution to the division or am I promoting it?

Unfortunately, the world around us thinks of the church as judgmental and contentious. May we begin to allow God to change our hearts so that we can be known for our love?

Discussion questions: Do you agree with this assessment? Have you experienced any of these, and if so, how did you respond?

Filed Under: Bible Reflection Tagged With: Church, division, Healing, pride

Let’s maintain some perspective

Posted on March 29, 2013 Written by Mark McIntyre 6 Comments

Tantrum

While I support the Biblical definition of marriage as a covenant between one man and one woman for life. I also think that we need to maintain some perspective when debating this issue.

Homosexuality is a symptom and not the disease. It is a symptom of unbelief as is every other sin that the rest of us commit. We all, Christian or non-Christian, gay or straight, sin. There are no exceptions to this according to St. John (1 John 1:8). Paul tells us in Romans 1:18 that apart from Christ, we suppress the truth in unrighteousness. We hold down the truth under the surface of unrighteousness in order to drown it.

Does homosexual marriage have negative consequences? I believe it does. But so does a marriage with an alcoholic spouse. We have abusive marriages. We have marriages that are so geared toward financial success that the children are neglected. There are many ways to make marriage less than it ought to be. Some “Christian” marriages are as dysfunctional as homosexual unions. This understanding does not justify homosexual marriage, but it should give us reason to clean up our own mess before we start throwing stones at others.

The solution to the ills of our society will never be a political one. Politics seeks to change people’s behavior, not their hearts. Politics and government may achieve external conformity, but it will never bring unity.

It is the business of the Church to preach the good news of Jesus Christ. That good news tells the story of how Jesus can free us from bondage to all sin, sexual or otherwise. We are all in need of that freedom. If we start living in that freedom and lovingly reach out to those who desperately need it, then we have the beginnings of real change in our society.

But this change comes at a cost. The cost is that we have to acknowledge our own unbelief and pride, humble ourselves and admit that we have the same need of a Savior as those on whom we look down. If God has the power to save a ragged lot like us, then he can reach into society and change anyone.

We should stand on our convictions and unapologetically teach what the Bible teaches on every issue, including that of homosexuality. But we need to do this in humility. We need to let those to whom we teach know that we have not got this all worked out and that God has a lot of work left to do in us, reclaiming the damage done by the fall of Adam.

Instead of pointing at others as the cause of societies ills, we need to first come to terms with our own contribution to the chaos.

If we do this, we will earn the right to be heard.

Filed Under: Christianity and Culture Tagged With: Church, homosexuality, marriage, perspective, pride

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